Head to Heart in 3 steps

After 28 years in 2 unhappy marriages, I'm in year 15 of a partnership that's beyond anything I ever imagined. Strong, sweet, authentic, intimate.

I help other people create the relationships they yearn for by following the same steps I did--the Head with Heart framework.

Turn down the volume on overthinking

Overthinking is a huge problem in relationships. It's how we pick people that are wrong for us, stay in relationships that don't work, avoid setting boundaries we need, stay quiet instead of asking for what we need and want.

Smart people are more likely to overthink because they have gold-star analytic skills. By 1st grade, we learn they're the key to success. Every question has a right answer, and we can find it. We trust our analytic mind implicitly.

Without it, we wouldn't be able to use a cell phone, much less run a company. But it's useless in uncertain situations where there's no single right answer. We can't navigate relationships using only our analytic skills.

Quieting your mind makes it possible to access all the knowledge available to you.

Learn your body-based language

We're born with another way of knowing -- our body-based language of emotions, feelings, and intuition. From birth, we know exactly what we need and want.

Sadly, we usually learn it isn't safe to rely on our body-based knowing.

Because our wants and needs are inconvenient or unacceptable to the adults in our lives. To survive, we suppress our emotions, feelings, and intuitive awareness.

Learning how to feel and interpret them again is the key to balancing analysis and body-based knowing. To using all the intelligence you were born with.

Reclaim self-trust

After decades of relying on our analytic mind, it's the only thing we trust about ourselves.

You start reclaiming self-trust with small, insignificant choices. Trusting tiny. What to eat for breakfast, whether to go for a walk, which book to read or show to stream.

With practice, your body-based knowledge becomes as reliable as your analytic skills. Some research evidence suggests it's more reliable than analysis.