About
Hey there. I'm Jenni.
I’ll tell you about me and what I do in a second. But let's talk about you first.
I'll bet you understand your relationship patterns.
You can probably trace them back to where they started.
You know what you want to do differently.
Yet here you are, wondering if you’ll ever have the relationship you want.
The problem isn’t self-awareness. You have plenty.
The problem is that knowing what you want to do and knowing how to do it are completely different things.
I work in the gap between understanding yourself and being able to act on that understanding.
In the moment. With a real person.
Science, not fluff
I have a master’s degree in nursing and spent 20 years consulting with physicians and healthcare executives, turning their research into published journal articles. My primary languages were data, logic, and thoroughness.
I also co-authored Stepcoupling (published by Random House), a practical guide to building a healthy relationship when kids are involved. It’s sold more than 30,000 copies and has been in print for over 20 years.
Also: two divorces
I had two failed marriages. 28 years in all because I'm tenacious and believed I could fix them if I just tried harder.
So I overthought everything: what happened, how I felt, what to say and do.
The same brain that helped me parse complex statistics and synthesize scientific literature weighed in on every relationship decision I made. Loudly and unhelpfully.
What changed my relationships
Now I’m 15+ years into a partnership I genuinely didn’t believe was possible for me. What made the difference was much simpler than I'd ever imagined.
Over a few years, I learned how to pay selective attention to my own thinking, to recognize and redirect the repeating patterns that kept me stuck. Then I learned to pay attention to what I knew, wanted, and felt in the moment.
So I could take the next right step that was true for me.
Why I coach
If I’d known in my 30s, 40s, and 50s what I know now, I would have avoided decades of feeling profoundly alone in relationships that weren’t working.
I help you identify what to do next and how to actually do it. That changes who you attract, how you show up, and what's possible for you.
If the gap between knowing and doing sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.
You can dive into my blog for my most recent tips and previous newsletters (go easy on the older ones).
Learn how to stop overthinking right away.
And find me on LinkedIn, Substack, and Threads.
See you around,
Jenni
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