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The "other" kind of intelligence you need

  • Jun 27, 2025
  • 2 min read

In 2 years, her smarts, skills, confidence, and creativity took her from staff nurse to managing 60 nurses on two units.

But her ex got under her skin, big time.

She spiraled with every gaslighting gut-punch message about their kids. Her anxiety skyrocketed.

Then she found “f*cking freedom”.

Like most smart, successful women, her intelligence was her superpower at work.

She solved every problem. If a solution wasn’t obvious, she’d double down on analyzing and imagine 5 or 6 scenarios. She always found the answer.

Doing the same thing with her ex—analyzing and imagining what might happen—made her feel panicky, confused, and uncertain.

When we started working together, she’d been doing it for a year. Emotionally exhausted, she dreaded messages from her ex. Even opening the app made her anxious.

We talked about overthinking right away.

Then a week later.

And the week after that. She still looked doubtful on Zoom. The problem was her ex. Not her mind.

BUT...

A few days later, she sent me a message:

“I watched myself starting to spiral. Then I remembered what we talked about and decided not to go there.”

I asked how it felt.

“Like f*cking freedom!”

Couldn't have said it better myself.

Knowing what you’re thinking and feeling and choosing what to do about it is an endless source of freedom.

And this was just the start. She reclaimed all the emotional energy she wasted on overthinking. No more exhaustion from dealing with her ex. Their relationship stopped eating her alive.

Her first experience of the “other” kind of intelligence. Emotional.

I help smart, successful women like you develop emotional intelligence so you can create the relationships you deserve. The life you crave.

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