<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Jenni Green]]></title><description><![CDATA[Act on Your Best Relationships]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:16:18 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.jennigreen.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[How you reinforce negative beliefs about yourself and what to do instead]]></title><description><![CDATA[Yesterday, I opened a newsletter from the writing coach I’ve been working with for 6 months. Within seconds, I felt like shit. I hired him to help me fine tune my writing and the systems I use to create content and newsletters. But this issue was about his clients who’ve scored financially. One landed a big coaching contract from a single comment on someone’s social media post. I immediately felt like a failure because I haven't done that. I spiraled for an hour before I realized what I was...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/how-you-reinforce-negative-beliefs-about-yourself-and-what-to-do-instead</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef127f9a7d9d1229228e</guid><pubDate>Sun, 10 May 2026 14:03:22 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_96e247f877864477a5b745bc4e06cb94~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_400,h_424,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Analyzing my feelings backfired]]></title><description><![CDATA[On Sunday morning, I sat down in my comfy office chair to meditate. I noticed I felt alone, so I stopped meditating and concentrated on the physical sensations in my chest and throat. So far, so good. But then I remembered feeling alone as a kid. I wondered what was underneath it. Tried to figure out what it meant. Within minutes, everything in my office felt like it was behind glass. My partner walked by and seemed like a complete stranger. That's dissociation. It’s zero fun. Feeling your...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/analyzing-my-feelings-backfired</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef127f9a7d9d1229228c</guid><pubDate>Sun, 29 Mar 2026 14:02:34 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_ec1cf193af974cf0a07e98e339f445bc~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_392,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Are you stuck in when/then thinking?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Early one morning last week, I was walking in the woods near our home. Everything was covered in 3 inches of fresh snow. A sudden gust of wind blew through the trees, and huge white clumps blanketed my head and shoulders within seconds. I started laughing. Which snapped me right out of the when/then thinking I’d been stuck in. When I get home, I’ll do some quick yoga. Then I can write until my first call. When I’ve finished my calls, I’ll make dinner. When we’re done eating, I can relax and...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/are-you-stuck-in-when-then-thinking</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef127f9a7d9d1229228a</guid><pubDate>Sun, 15 Mar 2026 14:04:15 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_fc8101daad534916b49853dda1b3f08f~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_432,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Are you the one managing everything?]]></title><description><![CDATA[My partner and I were still at the dinner table with my daughter and her husband. Their kids — 8 and 10 — had just hit our couch to play video games. Her husband asked my daughter if screen time was OK. I was impressed by how she answered: "I'm going to let you decide." Just like that, she handed the mental load right back to him. In most relationships, one person quietly makes most of the decisions. If you're good at managing things, you automatically take on the mental load of deciding....]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/are-you-the-one-managing-everything</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef127f9a7d9d1229228b</guid><pubDate>Sun, 01 Mar 2026 14:20:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_ec1cf193af974cf0a07e98e339f445bc~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_392,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why talking gets in the way of setting boundaries]]></title><description><![CDATA[I looked at the clock for the 10th time in 2 minutes. My husband was late again. Which meant we would be late to dinner with friends again. I'd told him that being on time was important to me. That being late was disrespectful. I'd reminded him when we needed to leave. But something always came up. So my blood was boiling with resentment. Again. I thought I was being clear about my boundary. Turns out, I wasn't. A boundary isn't what you tell someone. It's what you do. Here's what that looks...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/why-talking-gets-in-the-way-of-setting-boundaries</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef127f9a7d9d1229228d</guid><pubDate>Sun, 22 Feb 2026 15:06:52 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_378a0dff46874d8481bd2eccb9fa779a~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_454,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When being hilarious keeps you from connecting]]></title><description><![CDATA[At our friend’s party, candles glowed on white tablecloths. Piano music played quietly in the background. As usual, I felt socially awkward and uncomfortable. So I started telling jokes as soon as my husband and I walked in. Because being funny was my mask. One of my clients called this being the court jester. You perform instead of being present. Don’t get me wrong: Humor is a gift. And it's a brilliant coping mechanism you developed because you’re smart. Making people laugh lets you feel...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/when-being-hilarious-keeps-you-from-connecting</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef127f9a7d9d12292289</guid><pubDate>Sun, 15 Feb 2026 14:50:11 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_c9ae7f1fc258417397210d0d578523b6~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_412,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What you’re protecting yourself from (that isn’t real)]]></title><description><![CDATA[I’m lying in the dark family room at my partner’s house. It’s midnight and I’m on the phone with my daughter. She’s sobbing because she had just hit a dog on the road. I keep my voice low. He’s asleep upstairs, and I don’t want to wake him. Why? Because my ex had accused me of indulging my kids. Not always, but enough that it hurt. To protect myself, I managed his perception of me as a parent. And I brought that behavior into my new relationship like a tick I didn’t know had burrowed under my...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/what-you-re-protecting-yourself-from-that-isn-t-real</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d1229226a</guid><pubDate>Sun, 25 Jan 2026 16:19:44 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_7c48345f489e4ffba0e2c1bf913f0154~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_420,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What to do when you resist your next step]]></title><description><![CDATA[I’ve been procrastinating. Hopping up from my desk to find a snack, scrolling on social media, and downloading a new video game. I have a list of things to do before opening The Art of Connection. They aren't hard. They're just not as much fun as talking to clients. This week, I've been the poster child for resistance. It's the uncomfortable state of knowing you need to do something, but you have feelings about it. So you keep putting it off. The usual advice about resistance is to push...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/what-to-do-when-you-resist-your-next-step</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d12292267</guid><pubDate>Sun, 18 Jan 2026 15:03:11 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_a3702412d9054484a3d1a1d149e84c53~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_385,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[I don’t know who I am to my daughter anymore]]></title><description><![CDATA[For 7 years, I was my daughter’s protector and primary supporter. And this week I realized she doesn't need me in that role anymore. So now what? Who do I want to be in her life? I have no idea. And it's physically uncomfortable—a tightness in my chest and throat. But when I force an answer about a relationship, I'm just soothing my anxiety with a story. "She needs me to always be available." "I haven’t heard from her so something must be wrong." Meanwhile, I miss the chance to discover a new...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/i-don-t-know-who-i-am-to-my-daughter-anymore</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d1229226c</guid><pubDate>Sun, 11 Jan 2026 15:02:59 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_b7631d84369c404ea6d0df305566e5af~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_385,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why trying to change your negative emotions is stupid advice]]></title><description><![CDATA[In 2018, I found out my daughter had been abused at my ex-husbands house. She was 5 years old when it happened. She held it together until she was 26, then her life fell completely apart. For over a year, I drove 8 hours each way, twice a month, to clean her apartment and stock her freezer. But my primary job was to hold her, to try to make her feel safe. I boiled with rage. I wanted him to feel like the piece of sh*t he was for not protecting her. But she didn’t want him to know about her...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/why-trying-to-change-your-negative-emotions-is-stupid-advice</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d1229226b</guid><pubDate>Sun, 04 Jan 2026 15:00:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_7401e79dfdce43eaabf4a5902f367abc~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_435,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why you get stuck in emotional patterns]]></title><description><![CDATA[Last Saturday, I was at my desk while my partner put lights on our Christmas tree in the other room. But the lovely quiet morning was suddenly interrupted by an explosion of swear words as a bang shook the wall. I rushed in. He was crouched beside the tree, rubbing his head, white lights trailing from the branches. The paint was chipped where our sideboard had landed after he shoved it. "I hit my head on that effing thing," he said, pointing at the table. "Doing the lights is really...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/why-you-get-stuck-in-emotional-patterns</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d12292270</guid><pubDate>Sun, 28 Dec 2025 14:55:10 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_eff61cfcdd04408b9620f58981811e81~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_428,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Is it anxiety or intuition?]]></title><description><![CDATA[The words were as loud and clear in my head as if I had headphones on: “Go skydiving.” But I wasn't listening to anything while I worked in my home office. At that moment, I was looking out the window at the backyard garden instead of my computer, resting my eyes for a minute. I felt like an alien had injected the idea into my brain. The only thing I knew about jumping out of planes was that Army guys did it because they had to. I was terrified of heights and hated flying. The idea belonged...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/is-your-thought-anxious-or-intuitive</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d1229226e</guid><pubDate>Sun, 21 Dec 2025 15:19:09 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_0ccd17a49b404e4ea267a14c950e1d3b~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_419,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How to start managing your mind]]></title><description><![CDATA[I couldn’t figure out why I felt off on my walk in the woods this morning. I even passed my favorite tree without noticing. Then I checked on what my mind was doing. It was ruminating about a mistake my daughter might make in her ongoing legal battle with her ex and what I’d say to her about it. But I didn’t escalate to becoming anxious. After 10 minutes of reciting the words I memorized and looking up at the trees (not down at the ground), I felt like myself again. Checking on your mind is a...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/how-to-start-managing-your-mind</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d1229226f</guid><pubDate>Sun, 14 Dec 2025 15:00:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_593f5d3e3bbb4bae8313486d66b633ad~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_400,h_435,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[❤️ How to know when you're ready to date]]></title><description><![CDATA[I knew that starting another relationship within 2 months of my divorce was a bad idea. And that dating someone whose divorce wasn’t final was another bad idea. But I didn’t know why, or what taking more time would do for either of us. I learned the hard way: If you date too soon, you focus on what you don't want to experience again. For example, my ex put his business ahead of our family and broke his promises. He was present physically when we talked, but his mind was mostly somewhere else....]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/how-to-know-when-you-re-ready-to-date</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d1229226d</guid><pubDate>Sun, 07 Dec 2025 15:25:48 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[❤️  The "but" of your relationship]]></title><description><![CDATA[“… but I won’t be divorced twice.” This is how I thought about my second marriage. What came before the but? The way he made fun of me in front of our friends, offered to pay for things but never did, said his job was to keep me from getting a swollen head. And because I chose to downplay these, one thing followed the but: I stayed in an unhealthy relationship for 11 years. Here’s what I wish I knew then: A but signals we’re settling. It’s a sign we’re not letting ourselves have what we need...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/the-but-of-your-relationship</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d12292269</guid><pubDate>Sun, 23 Nov 2025 15:00:11 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[❤️ Do this to connect more deeply]]></title><description><![CDATA[Across the wooden picnic table, my friend was talking. But I wasn't listening. I was trying to find the courage to tell my truth. I’d never told anyone before. If she responded badly, it would destroy me. My heart pounded as I opened my mouth. "Underneath everything inside me, there's just a steaming pile of dog shit. That's my core." She looked at me. But she didn’t judge. Instead, she gave me space to speak. And the words poured out of me. I explained that I had a mask for every situation:...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/do-this-to-connect-more-deeply</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0f7f9a7d9d12292268</guid><pubDate>Sun, 09 Nov 2025 14:10:45 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[❤️ The dating advice that changed my life]]></title><description><![CDATA[After my partner asked me out for the first time, I started mentally spiraling about what to do and say over dinner. After two marriages that ended in divorce, I was terrified of ending up in another disastrous relationship. Then my friend Patti said: If it feels good, keep going. If it feels bad, run away. If you don't know how it feels, pay close attention. Her advice stopped my spirals cold, Reader. I stopped planning what to say and do. Mentally rehearsing conversations we could have. I...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/the-dating-advice-that-changed-my-life</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0c875a6143a338af31</guid><pubDate>Fri, 17 Oct 2025 14:39:53 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[❤️ The dealbreaker that almost ended my relationship]]></title><description><![CDATA[Sitting in my attic nook, watching fall leaves drift onto the driveway, I wrote my list of dealbreakers. All the things I'd overlooked in my 2 marriages. Controlling behaviors. Blaming. Emotional absence. Broken promises. I felt ashamed about what I'd accepted as normal. Sad about the years I'd wasted thinking people would change. And terrified I'd do it again. So when my partner and I started dating, I kept that list close. My safety harness. I promised myself: one dealbreaker, and I'd walk...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/the-dealbreaker-that-almost-ended-my-relationship</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0c875a6143a338af2f</guid><pubDate>Fri, 03 Oct 2025 14:19:16 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[❤️ The real reason you can't think your way out of overthinking]]></title><description><![CDATA[Pitch dark in the bedroom at 3 AM. Cool breeze on my arm. I was exhausted but wide awake. My brain spinning out endless disasters. Again. I knew I'd have as much focus as a chipmunk on crack the next morning. Because I'd been at the mercy of my mind for years. Nothing I'd tried had worked. Until I discovered a simple technique that stopped my mental doomscrolling and helped me get back to sleep. Reciting a memorized passage of text. It felt like magic. But understanding WHY it worked turned...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/the-real-reason-you-can-t-think-your-way-out-of-overthinking</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a05ef0c875a6143a338af33</guid><pubDate>Fri, 26 Sep 2025 14:04:32 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Stop trying to think your way out of mental spirals]]></title><description><![CDATA[3 AM. Pitch dark in the bedroom. Cool breeze through the window. I was exhausted but wide awake. My brain was spinning out endless disasters. Again. I'd been at the mercy of my mind for years. I believed that if I could just figure out what was underneath my mental spirals, I'd know how to stop them. Because I solved problems at work by finding the root cause. But none of the therapists or self-help books I'd turned to had gotten me anywhere. Trying to meditate made me more tense than I...]]></description><link>https://www.jennigreen.com/post/why-you-can-t-think-your-way-out-of-overthinking</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69f1184a7cb0726b2dab62b5</guid><pubDate>Fri, 26 Sep 2025 07:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1d9d0d_7f0f9a2c101c416cb27fcf065e2088e1~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_600,h_627,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>greenjennifer11</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>